What am I missing with Matrix?
from klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol to privacy@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 03:43
https://herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol/post/36912

I will be upfront with this, and say that I’ve never been a huge fan. But I did reinstall a Matrix server, and some clients to see if it’d gotten better in the year or so since I’ve last used it.

This just… Kind of feels like a more centralized XMPP with group chat folders that sort of function? The spaces feature is neat, but I’ve tried 4-5 clients, and every single one of those throws all of them into the same screen as the DMs by default, and I can’t find a way to change that.

Am I missing something here? Like. I want to at least see what people like here, I just can’t.

#privacy

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Sanctus@anarchist.nexus on 11 Feb 04:19 next collapse

As far as I know you arent missing anything. It literally displays like that. I couldn’t get into it tbh.

tastemyglaive@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 04:24 next collapse

matrix is pointless, huge bloated buggy ass server, no cheogram (phone number connection) or movim (social network accessible with any xmpp account), I can’t even be bothered to list off my issues with it I wrote out on some comment on some other account here just save yourself.

xmpp literally lets me run phone numbers in 4 different countries that stay connected wherever I am

if you don’t wanna deal with that arcanechat/deltachat is amazing tech that stays almost entirely on device. the arcanechat dev adb is cuban and YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM YOUR MONEY NOW

paper_moon@lemmy.world on 11 Feb 04:39 next collapse

Can you explain a bit about how you set up the phone numbers? Are those normal mobile numbers that people can text/call, etc? So you just need a data plan for mobile device?

tastemyglaive@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 05:01 collapse

the app will prompt you with the easy US/Canada options, but there are several providers. I will make a note in my planner to explain how to do it in countries that lack these services but it is really tough I had to spend tjme on the phone with telecoms to get it connected to our shit and by the time I was done it was beer o clock so I didn’t write it all down lol

zo0@programming.dev on 11 Feb 13:19 collapse

Which app? Which implementation?

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:10 collapse

I’m assuming they’re talking about Cheogram, since they mentioned it in their comment, and Cheogram does prompt you to set up a phone number at the end of the login process. I don’t know how well they work, because I don’t use it

Maeve@kbin.earth on 11 Feb 04:40 next collapse

if you don't wanna deal with that arcanechat/deltachat is amazing tech that stays almost entirely on device. the arcanechat dev adb is cuban and YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM YOUR MONEY NOW

❤️

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:11 next collapse

I’d heard of DeltaChat, and I use Cheogram as my main XMPP app, but I’ll have to look into arcanechat!

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 13 Feb 02:16 collapse

Arcane/Delta are compatible/interoperable with each other, one of the DC devs (the aforementioned adb) is the dev of Arcane and it’s kind of his testing grounds, it has a few extra features like extra themes, markings on the official chats to help prevent scammers, and turning off accts at the profile select screen.

But tbh I went back to DC proper myself last week just because I didn’t get that much benefit (didn’t like the themes over the OG, only use one acct so far and it uses no battery so no need to switch it off, but I did like the badges on the saved/device chats and hope that makes it into the official). Plus the official has the experimental “channels” now that I wanted to play with, and you can enable “debug calls” now so I don’t need Arcane for that anymore. Still love adb and he’s still working on Delta too (and you can message him using either, his contact details are on arcanechat.me lol, and he’s heavy on the DC forum, which you can log into using DC)!

Basically “same thing, try both, you can ‘export backup’ from say Delta and ‘add as second device>import from backup’ in Arcane and be logged into both if you want.” I did that for a day or so while deliberating.

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 13 Feb 02:04 collapse

Bump for Delta Chat. Onboarding is easy as dick, just have them use the default server (nine.testrun.org iirc) unless you have a preference, and pick a uname, don’t even need a password. The “invite friends” tab in DC is handy as hell. Modernish feeling chat to boot, and experimental video calling (works pretty fucking well tbh, better for me than Element’s calling on Graphene without push notifs actually.)

I do like XMPP but it’s still too hard for the normals still unfortunately, no easy “invite friends” that sends them directly to their app store and points them at my acct for me to send, and generally harder onboarding for them. And when I do get someone they complain about the outdated apps. And OMEMO is good but most apps use an outdated implementation and updating it would break compatibility with whoever didn’t. I still use it as a fallback, but Delta has so far been what I’ve been needing.

Kraiden@piefed.social on 11 Feb 04:45 next collapse

I find Matrix to be completely unintuitive. I could probably get to a point where I understood it, but the whole point (currently more than ever) is to get off Discord. That means convincing my normie friends, and ye. There’s just no fucking way

karashta@piefed.social on 11 Feb 05:35 next collapse

This. I’m not judging the program based on if I can use it. I need to get my non tech savvy friends onto it as well and this is where so many alternatives fail the litmus test

skribe@piefed.social on 11 Feb 07:13 collapse

Ignoring the missing features, is stoat a better experience for non-techies coming from discord?

VoxAliorum@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 07:54 collapse

yes, but it doesn’t have Al features

EDIT: Funny typo. Al->all

Goodlucksil@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 11 Feb 08:15 collapse

That’s a good thing

VoxAliorum@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 08:40 collapse

was a funny typo. I meant to write “all” not “Al”

sudoer777@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 05:44 next collapse

Matrix at least has potential for the UX to improve especially with vibecoding being a thing now, Discord will always be a bloated laggy locked-down Electron mess with no public API and hostility to third party clients and automation tools

IratePirate@feddit.org on 11 Feb 06:48 next collapse

That, or governments (which have started to move to Matrix for their communications) start investing in Matrix and contribute code / PRs.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:07 collapse

Matrix at least has potential for the UX to improve especially with vibecoding being a thing now

A: It does! Given how long it’s been around, and this just being… A default experience thing that makes it kinda bad out of the box if you consider that someone might join more than 5 spaces (I know people who’re in 40 discord “servers”)

B: I have personally experienced the user experience of vibe coding. I would not recommend anyone else personally experience the user experience of vibe coding. The company I work for has seen production outages like never before since they started doing it. Security issues out the wazoo, like what’s going on on the social medias for whatever they’re calling ClawdBot this week

sudoer777@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 15:55 collapse

I use it a lot for my own projects, and even with the open weight models it usually gets 90-95% there for more trivial things if you know what you’re doing, which GUI development is in the category of, and it has sped up my development. Is also helpful for debugging.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:29 next collapse

Yeah, that seems to be the big issue nowadays. Doesn’t matter if your friends use Google Calendar, they can send a link and I can subscribe to it with something else. Doesn’t matter if my friends use GDrive, I have Nextcloud. But discord? I can’t talk to my friends on XMPP unless they’re also on XMPP. There are bridges, but that still requires feeding every message to discord, which defeats the purpose. Also my friends would need to be the ones to set those up, and they are not.

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 13 Feb 01:54 collapse

As far as convincing normies I’ve had limited success (still working on it) getting them to use Delta Chat, just due to the easy onboarding, just pick a name and go, no password even. Got a few on it including my mom who cannot computer to save her life.

So far the holdouts are a few people of the “I don’t want to download a free app, you should spend a fucking grand on an iPhone so we can use iMessage” opinion (literally), and, idk I’m working on it but for people that out of touch and stupid there may be no hope except to be mercifully euthanized.

Kraiden@piefed.social on 13 Feb 12:20 collapse

Sadly too many of my friends fall into the forced euthanasia for their own good category!

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 13 Feb 14:05 collapse

Same lol, it’s a damn shame!

lung@lemmy.world on 11 Feb 04:58 next collapse

I evaluated matrix a few years ago to try to add chat to my video game. I also evaluated everything else. Sendbird (proprietary, what reddit uses) is crazy expensive. Matrix is complicated and didn’t have a good simple web frontend. XMPP is still pretty good. In the end, I ended up going with IRC v3 which fixes many of the legacy problems of IRC, and that was the best option. I am still scratching my head as to how that’s the state of the art for sending little bits of text back and forth. Don’t get me started on WebRTC, I spent a whole year trying to make a stable video chat app for another project

sudoer777@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 05:39 next collapse

No you aren’t missing anything, the UX is actually that dumb

mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 05:45 next collapse

Omg I love this thread and this post. Sometimes I feel like everyone is crazy when they suggest alternative software.

People will be like “hey the best burger place in town closed can anyone recommend an alternative?”

And then a bunch of farmers show up like “yeah dude buy this calf and then just raise it real quick and also plant some trees to get wood for your smoker, you have a smoker right? Anyways yeah it’s so easy bro I don’t even know why anyone buys corporate burgers tbh.”

And you say “hmmm okay sounds like a lot of work but I guess I can try it?”

And you try it and it’s the shittiest blandest burger and it doesn’t even have any sauce or lettuce or tomatoes because fuck you those things are for corporate burgers and if you want to complain why don’t you open up a tomato branch and start contributing tomatoes then and waaah waaah why won’t the stupid normies eat my shitty burger that takes 6 months to make and doesn’t have ketchup waaaaah it must be because everyone is dumb and lazy

ZeDoTelhado@lemmy.world on 11 Feb 11:42 next collapse

You definitely have a point here. Software has to be usable if it going to have wide adoption by the people. Sometimes I see recommendations being thrown around without even thinking of it fits the needs and/or user expertise and willingness to make something work. But to be clear, just because one piece of software does not fit your needs does not mean it has to be changed to fit your needs. But if it is complex, clunkly and/or unintuitive, it is only going to be usable by a niche. And if this is the case, stop telling your grandma to spin a matrix server or xmpp and do not tell her she is an idiot because she does not have the expertise or time to make it work.

Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 11 Feb 11:44 next collapse

Unfathomably based take. Holy shit.

eggJuggler@piefed.social on 11 Feb 13:38 next collapse

I 100% agree with you and at the same time it’s important to remember that a lot of FOSS software is written by individuals as hobby projects. Implementing features, keeping everything up to date and secure, documentation and testing takes time, effort and skill.
Most people need money to survive so they have a full time job and can only dedicated very limited resources to these projects.
Too many people got used to free services that “just work” and forgot that they are the product now. If you don’t want that look for alternatives that charge (even then you might still be the product) or better yet donate to open source projects in the hopes they will one day be on-par with their closed alternatives (there’s examples where this worked). Until we have a UBI and people have the time to dedicate themselves to a cool project this is the only way.

I think it would be even better if companies and governments started shifting funds back to these projects when they switch from commercial to FOSS software (which is happening more recently) but most just happily pocket the savings and this will not change until a fundamental cultural shift happens

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:02 collapse

a lot of FOSS software is written by individuals as hobby projects

Yeah that does give me a lot of patience with a lot of FOSS in general, though as far as I can tell that’s never really applied to Matrix in particular. It was initially started by Amdocs, an Israeli communications firm, and then they gave it to a UK group that formed a company, and then crowd funded it.

I think it would be even better if companies and governments started shifting funds back to these projects when they switch from commercial to FOSS software (which is happening more recently) but most just happily pocket the savings and this will not change until a fundamental cultural shift happens

Or a legal one. If it were cheaper to enforce licenses FOSS devs would actually be able to use a separate personal/commercial license in order to actually get companies/governments to pay them, while still allowing them to be free for personal use. It’s not exactly what WinRAR did (we were all breaking the TOS), but it’s practically what they did. The problem is that FOSS devs don’t have lawyer money, and you need lawyer money to do that

eggJuggler@piefed.social on 12 Feb 14:51 collapse

I don’t think (and also wouldn’t want) that this should be solved by the legal system. It would mean open source developers would have to deal with the whole legal side and implement telemetry into software which largely goes against the idea of many open source projects. How else would you be able to know that a company used your software?

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 12 Feb 23:48 collapse

We don’t currently have another way of enforcing this sort of thing, though, aside making software paid by default. How else will you convince a company that isn’t even concerned with its long-term growth in favor of quarterly earnings reports to pay money for free software? Especially when you consider that (at least in the US) that sort of thing could get them sued by their shareholders.

Frequently threats of legal action, backed by the ability to follow through on them, are enough to get most companies to fold, and pay. I don’t know that telemetry would be required in most cases, just because employees do talk, and usually publicly. I’m not sure if Unreal Engine does, but I can say with some certainty that WinRar didn’t, and most of their money was made through commercial licenses on nagware

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 14:54 collapse

I’m not even personally opposed to getting my hands dirty (I run Arch and Emacs ffs) my bigger issue is that this just… Doesn’t feel like a Discord replacement. It feels more like a texting replacement out of the box. Someone pointed out you can make it not show all of the rooms in the DMs list, which would bring it closer to what I expect from a discord alternative.

zod000@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 11 Feb 15:44 next collapse

It’s not a Discord replacement, full stop. Someone could make a Matrix client that was a Discord replacement, but no one has even attempted to do so as far as I know. Element (the reference client) was very clearly a Slack replacement. I know because I literally moved my small company to it from Slack. I think that Discord’s continued enshittification could lead to someone making such a client either for Matrix or XMPP. That being said, making something like this isn’t a small project and I wouldn’t expect one soon if one comes at all.

Discord hating rant here: Discord is kind of weird as far as these sorts of services go tbh. Its “weirdness” is part of why I have always has a dislike of it (the bigger part of why is the jerky users and company, just like Telegram). It focuses heavily on VoIP and video screen sharing in a way that most chat services so not, but is also a heavily emoji/sticker/whatever filled chat service. It was clearly made for the shit talking gamer crowd and it honestly excels there. If it had stayed there in that niche, I’d think nothing of it. Then many FOSS projects and small companies then decided to use it in lieu of a proper support forum, probably because they were already were, or had previously been, shit talking gamers and used it all the time.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 16:20 collapse

Someone else pointed out Cinny, which is… Pretty close to a discord replacement on Matrix, actually. Also I know Stoat mentioned a few federation options that they’d use if they ever do federate (not on the roadmap), with XMPP being the one it seemed like they’d favor.

Also ngl it doesn’t even seem like Matrix would be a good slack replacement, unless the UI you’re using makes it more slack-like

Re: Discord section, yeah… I liked discord at the start. It was mostly for voice calls, with a decent chat interface (based on IRC’s). Then it started getting used wildly inappropriately, which annoyed me, and then all of the horrific privacy stuff came up and it’s just… Ah. Whelp. This ship’s sinking fast.

zod000@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 11 Feb 18:22 collapse

I should say that Element looks like it was heavily inspired by the OG Slack UI as it was at a specific point in time probably 7-8 years ago. Slack’s UI started getting tweaked and enshittified quite a bit, especially after Salesforce bought them. So I can totally get not seeing the direct resemblance, but as someone that was forced to be on Slack for a decade, Element felt like “ahh old Slack” in a good way, though obviously not exact.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 18:45 collapse

Ahh, okay, we only started using Slack at work a couple of years ago, so I don’t remember the old UI

Kirk@startrek.website on 11 Feb 18:01 collapse

Doesn’t feel like a Discord replacement.

I think it’s on the way there, but it’ll be a while on the order of years. It’s not the easiest thing in the world to self-host either.

hayvan@piefed.world on 11 Feb 06:45 next collapse

Has anyone tried Mattermost? It’s modeller after Slack mostly.

baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 08:04 next collapse

mattermost is meant for big corporations or governments

hayvan@piefed.world on 11 Feb 08:39 next collapse

And how is that a problem? Too powerful? Too scalable? Can handle more users than you need?

We use it for a corporation of 20 people just fine.

MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip on 11 Feb 13:07 collapse

Matrix too.

unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 10:25 next collapse

They are going downhill recently. Everyone around me is trying to get rid of it.

PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world on 11 Feb 10:55 collapse

I run Mattermost at home since several years, and now I am switching to Zulip.

Mattermost is also enshittifying itself and imposing limits like those that caused us to flee from Slack.

Zulip is (afaik) true FOSS without venture capital, and has no restrictions. It’s what we should habe done from the start.

Lemmchen@feddit.org on 11 Feb 11:16 next collapse

Neither of those supports E2EE unfortunately.

hayvan@piefed.world on 11 Feb 15:44 collapse

TIL about Zulip, thank you.

geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 09:26 next collapse

Matrix starting development under Israeli company Amdocs is enough for me to never touch it with a 10 foot pole no matter its rebranding to a “British” company.

DieserTypMatthias@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 11:19 next collapse

You can self-host it and there’s even a full rewrite in Rust available, which AFAIK is independent of the company.

geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 12:42 collapse

Element is still a main client and it’s the same people who worked for Amdocs in the past.

Everything about it screams “backdoor” to me including a supposed dev of it showing up and talking about how ethical and super duper cool the Israeli company actually is news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36020947

User: “…Furthermore, 6 Israelis working for Amdocs were deported in 2002 for spying on the US. That’s not just a conspiracy theory. Its a seriously concerning fact.”

Alleged dev: “I saw absolutely zero evidence or interest in malicious activity while working at Amdoc…”

And

“They didn’t pay big money - they funded a ~15 person team for a few years”.

Because we all know bankrolling 15 devs for years is super cheap.

Their history is shady enough for me to not even consider it.

[deleted] on 11 Feb 18:21 next collapse

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geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml on 11 Feb 19:06 collapse

An Israeli software company which has been caught making spyware multiple times

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 13 Feb 01:47 collapse

What’s more, even if you self host, unless you only allow chats within your instance, your server pisses metadata to any server it federates with, and as the “default” instance is matrix [.] org you basically have to federate with them.

Even if it isn’t backdoored through the app (which afaik has never been audited) or server (which afaik also hasn’t), or the protocol (which afaik has, but me no trust), if they’re spying on the metadata that alone is an issue, and they absolutely could do that.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:18 collapse

Yeah… I’d seen some stuff with that, just didn’t mention it because I hadn’t looked into it too hard. The one I’m trying is a fork of a rewrite of the original server software by unrelated devs. I did try Element, but there’s nothing on the server that I actually care about.

unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 10:39 next collapse

The spaces feature is neat, but I’ve tried 4-5 clients, and every single one of those throws all of them into the same screen as the DMs by default, and I can’t find a way to change that.

“show all rooms” is how you turn that off in element

<img alt="" src="https://discuss.tchncs.de/pictrs/image/9cf2fe9e-9dbc-4958-913b-60d61d8b9baf.png">

Nheko also supports spaces and has a filter to only show DMs, it also allows tagging rooms to do custom grouping of chats. But at the moment only element properly embeds calls with the new element-call system.

<img alt="" src="https://nheko-reborn.github.io/images/screenshots/chat.png">

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:14 collapse

Element/Element X on mobile both seem to be missing that, and I’m predominantly on mobile for… Most chat apps now. Only exception is I do usually do discord voice calls on desktop because of push to talk. Do you know of any mobile clients that’ll do that?

unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 16:09 collapse

SchildiChat Next is a close fork of element x with some great added features, like custom color and layout options.

It has a “pseudo space” feature which allows grouping by a set of predefined filters and the filter “chats not added to spaces” would give you this. This pseudo space will then show up under the name “space orphans” :D

This settings page can be found under Settings > Turtle Tweaks > Spaces > Pseudo spaces

<img alt="" src="https://discuss.tchncs.de/pictrs/image/c1f7962c-9d39-4b3e-a304-18e2e6b0ebd5.png">

Lemmchen@feddit.org on 11 Feb 11:20 next collapse

Man, the Matrix hate in this thread is real.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 15:21 collapse

Yeah, it is. It’s not what I intended with this, I did actually just wanna see if I was missing something, but I did figure it’d happen.

Untold1707@lemmy.zip on 11 Feb 15:54 next collapse

Give other matrix clients a try: FluffyChat has separators for DMs, Groups, and Spaces.

Cinny has a Discord look. Mainly a desktop application so it doesn’t have an app, but works fairly well as a PWA.

If you’re on Android, Schildi Chat Next also has a lot of UI/UX tweaks that people enjoy.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 16:12 collapse

Fluffy does have a separator for groups, but from what I can tell it does show all of the space group chats in there. Not a huge deal for me (I don’t use a lot of group DMs on discord), but will be for some friends

Schildi I’d need to redownload to check, but it had the same look as ElementX

Cinny, though… That’s promising. Thank you!

WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works on 12 Feb 00:01 collapse

schildi has mostly the same look, but has extra settings.

I think there’s a setting in element web/desktop to hide rooms in the main list when they are in a space, did you try that?

sobchak@programming.dev on 11 Feb 19:30 next collapse

Matrix is adequate, IMO. Some people have a really low tolerance for software that isn’t very polished. I, personally, don’t care much how polished an app is, but have known a person that cared so much they left a group over how much they disliked the UX of Element/Matrix. I’m fine with TUIs, old GTK UIs, Java Swing UIs, as long as it works, lol.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 20:36 collapse

I’m fine with a lot, but there comes a point where it just feels… Less good than what I’m already using, and I don’t see why switching is worth it, which is where I was with XMPP and Matrix. Cinny seems promising, though

sobchak@programming.dev on 11 Feb 20:46 collapse

Yeah, it is probably worse in terms of UX. I’ve been intentionally using “worse” software, developed mostly by volunteers, that’s free (gratis and libre), and doesn’t spy on its users for a long time now though. For instance, FreeCAD and GIMP is pretty bad on the UX side, and FreeCAD is even pretty buggy; but I don’t feel like I’m being exploited by using them. Cinny does look nice.

apftwb@lemmy.world on 11 Feb 19:32 collapse

Can someone recommend some XMPP clients for Mobile/Desktop. The internet is littered with XMPP clients that look like this:

<img alt="" src="https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/a740d838-f3be-4e38-b4e1-517c79065711.png">

eneff@discuss.tchncs.de on 11 Feb 20:31 next collapse

Conversations and Dino for mobile and desktop respectively.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 11 Feb 20:34 collapse

I use Cheogram on mobile, and on desktop I use Dino. I’ve also used Conversations on mobile, which is what Cheogram is a fork of. Cheogram has some extra features I wanted. Also Movim, but on mobile I’ve found the general consistency to be… Bad

HumbleBragger@piefed.social on 13 Feb 15:23 collapse

Man I wish I had friends to talk to using xmpp or even matrix. Where I live people have hard time using telegram over whatsapp..I hate that I’m forced to use it to talk to people.

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 13 Feb 15:59 collapse

I just at some point got tired of it and kinda just told everyone “I have an XMPP account, a signal account, a phone number, and an email address. You can use any of those to get in contact with me.” and they all picked one. Nobody picked email though xD

HumbleBragger@piefed.social on 13 Feb 17:54 collapse

I struggle with that..I’m not very popular and I’m afraid nobody will ever talk to me if I ask them to just use a different app. I’m in one group chat from my old army buddies and we barely chat..

eldavi@lemmy.ml on 13 Feb 18:15 next collapse

i get the impression that we all are. lol

klymilark@herbicide.fallcounty.omg.lol on 13 Feb 21:22 collapse

That’s part of why I still gave phone numbers and emails, despite both not being secure in any capacity; most people do have them, even if they’re not their preferred methods of communication.

I did lose a couple of people, but they were the ones I caught up with like… Once a year, anyway. Not that I didn’t value them as friends, but there comes a point where it’s like… I’m not missing a whole lot without you here, y’know. And it’s not like I had that many friends, either, I only have a handful of people I talk to regularly. Maybe 15-20 a month if we’re including friends of people I know who I see in passing?